How to Enjoy Your Wedding Day When You’re Camera Shy

(Even if You Hate the Spotlight)

Not everyone dreams of being the center of attention.
If the thought of dozens (or hundreds) of eyes on you – not to mention a camera – makes you nervous, you’re not alone.

As a wedding photographer who has worked with many couples who’d describe themselves as shy, reserved, or just not “camera people,” I can tell you: you can still have a wedding day full of joy, connection, and stunning photos you love!

Here’s how to feel comfortable, confident, and in-the-moment – even when the spotlight’s on you.

1. Work with a photographer who guides you into comfort

This is where I come in!
I’ll give you direction so you never feel lost in front of the camera – sometimes that means starting with a pose that might feel a little structured, just to get you into great light or a flattering angle. But from there, I encourage you to interact, move, laugh, and be yourselves.

The most natural, joy-filled photos come when you’re focusing on each other – how much you love each other, how excited you are – and letting yourselves be a little goofy or playful. Those real emotions and small in-between moments are what make your images feel effortless and genuine.

2. Focus on Each Other, Not the Camera

One of the best ways to relax is to shift your attention to your partner. Forget about “performing” for the camera. Instead, focus on how much you love each other, whisper an inside joke, or share a goofy moment. When you’re comfortable with each other and genuinely enjoying yourselves, the most candid, heartfelt images happen naturally.

3. Create Breathing Room in Your Timeline

Building in time for quiet moments – whether it’s a first look before the ceremony, sunset portraits, or a private stroll between events – gives you a chance to reset and be present. These breaks help keep the day from feeling rushed and allow me to capture some of the most authentic, intimate photos of the two of you.

4. Give Yourself Permission to Not Be Perfect

The magic of candid photography is that it celebrates the real, unfiltered moments – wind in your hair, belly laughs, and all. The more you focus on each other and the meaning of the day, the more the camera fades into the background, and the more authentic your photos will feel.

5. Trust the Process

One of the biggest gifts you can give yourself is trusting your photographer to take the lead. I’ve photographed hundreds of couples — from the most outgoing extroverts to the shyest introverts – and I know how to read the room, adjust my approach, and guide you in a way that feels natural for you.

Bottom line: You don’t have to be a natural in front of the camera to have photos you love. You just have to feel comfortable, connected, and in the moment – and I’ll make sure that happens.

How I Help You Open Up in Front of the Camera

I don’t expect you to show up knowing what to do – that’s my job ;).
Here’s how I make sure even the shyest couples feel confident and relaxed:

• Gentle Direction: I guide you through natural, easy-to-follow prompts so you’re never wondering, “What do I do with my hands?”

• Read-the-Room Energy: I adjust my presence based on your comfort level – stepping in with direction when needed, or blending into the background so you can just be.

• Connection First: My goal is to make you so focused on each other, you forget the camera is even there.

• Encouragement Throughout: I’ll be your cheerleader all day, reminding you that you look amazing and helping you feel it, too.

💛 Final Thought:
If you’re dreaming of a wedding day where you can fully enjoy the moment – without the pressure to “perform” — you need a photographer who understands you, anticipates your needs, and captures your story with warmth and authenticity.

If that sounds like the experience you want, I’d love to chat about how we can make it happen. Get in touch here → Book A Discovery Call